How Do You Say “Gifted”?

gifted talented advanced

What is a Blog Hop?

A Blog Hop is a way to discover and follow blogs, as well as share your own. Every month or two, we pose a topic, our blogging members discuss it, and we link to their posts. GHF blog hops include bloggers from around the world, all of them committed to articulating the unique concerns, needs, and perspectives of gifted/2e families, especially (but not exclusively) those who choose non-traditional education
Gifted Cubedfor their kids.

Read on to see what these awesome bloggers have to say about the “G” word!

giftedDeveloping a Tough Skin ~ Gluten-Free Mum (Kathleen Humble)

When people (usually strangers) ask me about my son – do I use the word ‘gifted’? Or should I use ‘asynchronous’? Some of the more fraught conversations I have had have been with parents of homeschooling or special needs kids. Which was a surprise for me.


giftedGifted: Do You Watch What You Say? ~ The Learning Lab (Maggie McMahon)

Raising a gifted child is tougher than it looks. Talking about it surfaces feelings; words expose raw emotion. What words do you use for “gifted”?

gifted Gifted? Let’s Talk About It ~  My Little Poppies (Caitlin Curley)

But here’s the thing: if we all sit around not talking about it, we are doing a huge disservice to these gifted children. Sure, it might be uncomfortable at first, but the more you talk about giftedness the easier it will be for you, and the better it will be for them. Our son is profoundly gifted and twice-exceptional, and I’m talking about it.

giftedHow do you say gifted? (Spoiler: We try not to.) ~ Mommy Misadventures (Michelle Nguyen)

As an adult who grew up with the “gifted” label, I really wish there was another word that I could use to describe my daughter that wasn’t so loaded with expectation.

giftedHow do YOU say “Gifted”? ~ We Are All Mad Here: Homeschooling Hatters (Care Martin)

This week, Mad Natter had a visit to the doctor. Our regular GP had been on maternity leave the last time we were in for his checkup, so we did a whole evaluation – which inevitably brings about the question, “so, how’s school?” Homeschooling helps a bunch of that, as it’s really easy to report on his progress, but when the doctor asks things like “why are you homeschooling? Do you just like it?” you have a choice. You can give a non-committal answer and hope for the best, or you can choose to tell the care provider the whole truth about your child. Naturally, you want the doctor to have the most complete information about your child as possible, but what do you do then?

giftedHow I Tell People That My Kids Are *Shhh* (Gifted) ~ Building Wingspan (Susanne Thomas)

I’m not apologetic and I don’t make excuses for my kids. But I also don’t go to great lengths to explain who they are. I let their actions and their words and their fifty million questions do the talking.

gifted parentingHow To Avoid Accusations of Inequality: Share the Heart of Giftedness ~ Thoughts on Life and Learning (Wenda Sheard, J.D., Ph.D.)

I recently met an interesting couple at a social gathering. At one point, the father mentioned that his 16 year old high school junior, who is taking two college courses, finds those courses to be easy. Fine, I get that. Then the father quickly added, “we didn’t push him or show him flash cards when he was young.”

I found the father’s “disclaimer” to be disturbing. I wasn’t sure whether to reveal myself as a gifted advocate or not. The only thing I said in response was, “I understand, I understand.””

In this blog article, I give parents of highly intelligent children advice about how to talk about their children’s successes, challenges, and needs without risking accusations of inequality. I admit that’s a tricky business: avoiding accusations of inequality where inequality obviously exists. But it’s possible. Here’s how.

giftedIt’s A Jungle In There–Explaining Giftedness ~  Your Rainforest Mind (Paula Prober)

I’m here because it’s time you realized that what you’re calling ADD or OCD or bipolar or quirky or dorky or geeky or anal retentive or impatient or poor communicator or eccentric or too sensitive or too dramatic or too whatever– may, instead, be a rainforest mind doing what it does.

gifted einstein feynman geniusThe Last Journey of a Genius and How do You Say Gifted ~ A 2e Fox Revived (Carolyn Fox)

Perhaps we should re-assess how we say giftedness. Perhaps we should accept that there are Feynmans in the world and that there are more definitions and ways to be gifted than being identified through IQ testing.

giftedOh, No! Not the G Word! ~ Gifted Unschooling (Amy Harrington)

Gifted is so loaded. The word is irrelevant other than to succinctly describe a set of characteristics that are both varied and commonplace in those whose brains are wired differently. In the wrong context, it seems to inspire jealousy and hate.

giftedSaying ‘Gifted’ is never just one thing ~ Houseful of Chaos (Christy Knockleby)

It is still hard for me to say the word “gifted.” Sometimes it seems easier when in the context of talking about the challenges that giftedness can bring but we should not have to act as though the challenges are negatives required to equal out the positives of giftedness and thus let giftedness be a socially acceptable neutral thing.

giftedThose Gifted Code Words ~ Laughing at Chaos (Jen Merrill)

Gifted is a terrible word for these outlier kids and their outlier parents. It’s not a gift from the universe (and yes, I still have days when I would send it back if I could). But it’s the only word we have, it’s the only word that’s recognized (however poorly) for this righthand side of the bell curve life, it’s an unfortunate word for what it describes.

gifted Three Ways to Say Gifted ~ Crushing Tall Poppies (Celi Trepanier)

It is just one of those discombobulated moments that you wish could just go away or at least would pass very quickly. You know, like the ‘wake me up when it’s over’ kind of quickly. But if you have gifted children, you know it will be necessary, on more than one occasion, to have to audibly utter the term gifted in the future. And when you must verbalize it, how do you manage to get through that awkward moment? How do you say gifted?

gifted underachiever talentedWhy We Need to Be More Mindful of How We Say “Gifted” ~ Red, White and Grew (Pamela Price) 

There are a lot of cognitively gifted people who would rather [fill-in-the-blank with something awful of your choice here] than sit in a classroom again. Might some of these people, now adults, may have or had undiagnosed dual exceptionalities? Sure. That might explain why they felt out of step in school. It doesn’t mean, however, that their life and education choices—if satisfying to them—are less than ideal or nothing other than marks of “underachievement.”

Likewise, there are some bright young people who are “borderline gifted” and yet achieve “more” academically than their peers with higher IQs because they have an inborn knack for figuring out the game of academia and relish playing it. That’s fantastic.

But that academic path is not optimal for everyone–not even all the mathematically gifted people, and we need to stop holding all gifted people to the same narrow standard.


FREE Downloadable Brochures:
The Healthcare Providers’ Guide to Gifted Children
The Educators’ Guide to Gifted Children
Twice Exceptional—Smart Kids with Learning Differences
Gifted Cubed — The Expanded Complexity of Race & Culture

Past Blog Hops



Spread the love
Bookmark the permalink.

Comments are closed.